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Do you need to follow interim Court Orders from Judge Ellis?

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No.  My experience is that Judge Ellis will re-evaluate the facts on why you did not follow the order and will look for ways to not become entangled in the mess.   This is why the unethical attorney who will play the odds of being caught (versus benefit) can have an advantage.

In one case, Ms. Valerie Kraml (Napa Lawyer) negotiated an agreement which was signed off by the Court as an interim order.  The agreement covered some contingencies verbally but the written order was brief.   Subsequently, Ms. Kraml decided the Court order was directed to my children and not my ex (reading the fucking order explicitly–that she just negotiated and conveniently brought up the verbal addons were not in writing and no longer applicable).  I guess she didn’t fucking know if she is a Judge or a lawyer bound to ethics and good faith efforts–but she did know how to cheat to win.  She did not inform the court or me of her new interpretation.  But she did inform my ex the order was not applicable to her—she (Kraml) later claimed attorney-client to hide her scheming.   Well it worked (because it caused a long delay which was very advantageous to their next step–moving to Truckee under the cover of telling the Court they were on vacation.  Judge Ellis after being informed just moved on to the current issues.

But in doing so, Judge Ellis showed the true rules of the Solano Courts– fucking win by any means.  I didn’t know this ahead of time.  Now I know.

Yes, I did have a lawyer, who said Judge Ellis doesn’t want to get into this and Ms. Kraml had an argument, because the order was for the children to attend counseling.  (My lawyer said he did not recall any of the verbal conversation–most likely because he thought I didn’t have enough money to fund another fight, and he just got ass wooped by a crafty lawyer.  So this points to a catch 22–the Court does not want to write a multi-volume order covering every contingency, so the unethical lawyer can always find shallow arguments to avoid the Court order.  If you are a guy, most likely the Court will not allow this game playing, but it seems to work for women.

This attorney is quite sneaky and seems to be a genuine feminist who probably sees her crafty approaches as justifying the means.

Well all this is my opinion.  Just be careful about Ms. Kraml and get every fucking word in writing because she does play dirty.  (No matter what your lawyer says about ethics etc because no one care about ethics.)

I imagine that you will agree the Superior Court of Solano County is joke justice system after you get some experience.

 

 

Combating Parental Alienation and the Reality of Why the Superior Court of Solano County is key support for the existence of Parental Alienation Child Abuse PACA

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At the end of this post is a link with suggestions for dealing with Parental Alienation Child Abuse.  I believe they could be helpful for early stages of PACA.  But for later stages, there is only one solution–ending the the alienating parent’s ability to destroy the other parent.    This is why the support of the Court is needed.

In the Superior Court of Solano County, it is standard practice to issue orders that would prevent PACA, but the problem is that the Courts do not enforce the orders.  I repeat for emphasis that the Superior Court of Solano County does not enforce their orders.  This is a problem that is squarely on the shoulders of the Judges and the Court system.  This gets back to the wholesale toleration of lying and false allegation in the Solano Family Court, and the influence of politics on the Court system.  The Judges of Solano Courts have courage when the issues are domestic violence or child support, but on other issues they are cowards and show their true character–they will not punish for lying or false allegations and do no want to hear about Parental Alienation.  Usually, you will not get the issue of PACA before the Court because they use court appointed mediators that throw a doubt into any proceedings.  The Court appointed mediators usually paint any case in terms of domestic violence even based on false allegations.  (The mediators write up their reports as if they are fact after an hour or so of interviews–when they are nothing more than a guess.  There is no real fact finding and no desire upon the Court to find facts.)  There is a false Justice system at the Superior Court of Solano County based on treating people as pegs and your case must fit in one of the holes they have provided.  Parental alienation child abuse is not one of the holes for pegs.  I would have never known what a snake pit of business, politics, and artful disregard of truth though administrative policies and rules had I not used the Court, so I assume most out their don’t know the truth.   The Solano Court system in character is no different than a criminal organization except that it happens to have some serious judicial responsibility.   The Judges are nothing more than a cog in the divorce business — most Judges are there to climb ladders or draw a steady pay check.  (As with most County Courts you can find many Judges who are married or friends with lawyers in the community and this Judges have great sympathy for the need to keep their own kind employed and they place their own kind (lawyers) high on the pedestal.   There is a caste system in place and parents are at the bottom of the caste and the interest of lawyers (top of the caste) — to prolong bureaucracy to fill their bank accounts is supreme.)

So when the Court whines openly about their budget cuts.  I say cut their budgets because the Court system is a mess.  It no longer serves justice.  It is nothing more than a tool for politicians and an employment agency for lawyers.   No Court system is better than a bad system.  The County Court fails to be a real player in Justice and needs to be reformed on done away with…employing lawyers (many of whom the Judges have connections) or having superficial justice for administrative reasons does not meet the common sense basis of why the people want a Court.

But if you are lucky enough to catch parental alienation early enough, see references for how to battle it.

http://www.parental-alienation.info/publications/24-sigofparalisynandhowtocouitseff.htm

1. Destroy the effects of denigration by one parent towards the other by making the child aware of the happy history before the acrimony and separation between the parents occurred.

2. Get the child to see the good points about the denigrated parent.

3. Be firm and proactive in changing attitudes and behaviour that have caused the parental alienation.

4. Try to get the alienating parent to cooperate in stopping the alienation. This is easier said than done, and many alienators will refuse to cooperate in this although claiming otherwise. This is even the case when it is highlighted that such actions are actually harmful to the child’s development.

5. Appeal to the child’s conscience that he or she is rejecting, hurting, and humiliating an innocent party who cares for that child.

6. Have the child together with the alienated parent in due course while seeking to change both attitudes and behaviour via rational emotive therapy. There is a need in this process for very firm communications.

7. Make the child aware of what a blood relative might sacrifice for that child which is not the case for strangers.

8. Warn the parent who alienates the child of the harm that they are doing to the child not just in the present time but in the future also.

9. Appeal to the child’s critical thinking (intelligence and emotions) and make the child aware of the unfairness and cruelty in rejecting a loving parent.

10. Make the child aware that they need both parents without endangering the relationship with the alienating parent.

11. Make the child aware that they may lose a good parent if the process of alienation continues.

12. The child should be made aware that the extended family of the alienated parent is also being unfairly rejected.

13. Encourage the child not only to engage with the alienated parent but with the alienated parent’s extended family, i.e. grandmother, grandfather, aunts, uncles, etc. This will serve to reverse the alienation process.

14. Curtail or eliminate telephone calls and other communications from the programming parent while the child is with the non-custodial parent.

Hello is this the year 2012 and is this America? Women’s Rights groups have gone too far

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Colorado father’s custody fight moves back to his home state

This is a short news article worth reading.   It won’t be long before fatherhood requires an application and approval from the government.   The quote below is from the article.  You can thank the many angry women who fought for women’s rights for this….they continue to support organizations that in practice are fundamentally biased against males and fathers.

“I believe that birth fathers who are willing to step up to the plate and parent their children should be given an opportunity,” Reyes said after Wednesday’s hearing. “Before she was even born, he was saying to everyone, ‘Hello, I’m here, I want to have custody of my daughter, I want to take care of her, I want to love her.’”

I don’t know the details but it sure does parallel the ultimate form of parental alienation.

 

 

Social Norms and Medical Marijuana: The Solano Family Court Custody Evaluator

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The custody evaluator for the Solano Family Court does not like Medical Marijuana.  They will go to great lengths to denigrate you.  They do not need to link it to your children.  It is simply that when that old white woman (refer to old data base in this website’s archive) does not like you, she will expand the mere allegation of something possible to a statement of facts.

I find it disheartening that the Courts will employ people that use their position to express their personal beliefs in life.    The list of examples of what white the old white woman likes and doesn’t like is long and it will all go into her summary of whether you follow social norms.

I bet you didn’t know there is a list used by the Court of social norms.   There is no such list but the Court mediator will express such conclusions.

Only a short note today– as a book marker to be expanded upon later.   It is amazing that the Court actually has such cesspool of bias built into its system.   If you are a father stay away from any mediator that is an old white woman.

 

An Angry Rant about the Superior Court of Solano County for Easter

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What is the purpose of the Court?   I thought when you cannot agree with the other parent you go to Court to have them intercede.   I thought you are punished if you lie.  I thought you are punished if you do not follow Court orders.

Then I learned, you get second and third chances.   You say I am sorry.  You say I did not understand.  You lie because every time you go to Court, its a new game.  Lies from before are history.

The system is perfect for a mother who is manipulative and lies.

I know some of you other fathers out there know this truth.  Most people don’t.  While there are all sorts of shade of honesty in the Courts, when you have a true liar she will find the Courts to be her playing field.

As Easter comes, I am truly disgusted with the Judges and the Court System.   I have learned they have no interest in punishing a mother for lying.  They don’t even want to hear about it.   The Solano Family Court might as well be in China.  Their willingness to be complacent ruins the lives of fathers and the relationships with their children.

The Courts are no match for the mother who will lie and ignore Court orders.

You can file and refile paper work.  Nothing will change.  Your children get older and the opportunity to fix problems passes.  So on this Easter I think very negative thoughts about the Judges who do nothing more than pretend to be Judges.   The Solano Court is truly a hall of lying and liars win.

I wish I had believed the rants of other fathers many years ago.   I though lawyers had integrity.  I thought the Court mediators were professionals.  Now I know its nothing more than a system of passed responsibility.  Only the biggest liar and manipulator wins because the Courts have no interest or time to investigate every case.  Until a true crime is committed the Courts will sit on the side lines.  The Courts empower failure and the worst parent.

I wish I could express my disgust for the idiots of the Court in better way.  All I can do is to continue to preach my message to not trust the Court or lawyers.  The system is a business that cares more about keeping the factory lines moving than justice.   The “best interest of the children” is the universal backstop to justify their laziness and acceptance of lies and the Court’s failures.

Happy Easter to you fathers who don’t see your kids on Sunday.   Know that at least one other person (me) believes the Solano Court system is biased towards men.  Justice is impossible and the system is designed to hide its failures and the system itself decides what is a failure.  There is no accountability for the Court as it easy to hide failures or dismiss them with rhetoric about parents.

I have seen the Court system fail and have no doubt the Judges hide behind a facade of integrity that are only words and image–but no reality.   The lawyers for the most part have no real value added except to lighten the work load of the Court and rip you off for money.  The Court mediators will only stereotype you and are hand selected to reflect the values of the Court.

How do the people end up with a Court system where the person willing to lie and game the system wins?

 

Lawyers and Child Custody Experts, Same as a Pimp and Prostitute except the latter are honest: Making Money at the Solano Family Court

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As with every institution, money eventually becomes kings and maximum profits influences  how processes are actually performed.

So whether you find your lawyer from Vallejo, Napa, Fairfield, or Vacaville, know they are pimping themselves in general.   They are selling you an image and promises they may or may not keep.  Some lawyers are honest.  But face it, most lawyers went into law with dreams of power or making money, not justice or protecting human rights.  Lawyers are (in general) no different than the drug dealer on the corner with baggy pants.  The only difference is that the drug dealer is up front about what he does and probably was dealt a bad hand in life.   The lawyer lies up front and probably had a better draw of the cards of life.   Which attributes do you respect more…honesty and hard work versus lying and taking advantage of people?   So if you are truthful and put aside all of our preconceptions and beliefs (I am thinking of middle class America), the corner drug dealer could be considered to be a better person than the average lawyer.

So how much money is involved in the Solano Family Courts?   A lawyer will charge you some intial fee usually — a retainer.  And will add a statement– I think that will pretty much cover it.  This is a used car salesman inner-self of a lawyer.  They hook you like a fish and when you have no choice but to pay more, they will start to talk about complications.  Most lawyers do very little other than show up to court, talk on the phone, and tell you how much work they do.   The average lawyer at the Solano Family Court is very similar to a thief, a criminal, a rapist, and so on…..except what they do is legal and even characterized as an important function in society.

So in the end the average lawyer will charge you between 3000 and 20,000 dollars for doing nothing more than showing up in a suit and pontificating.

Now what about child custody experts?   What kind of expert volunteers and choose to be on a list approved by the Court.  A real expert can make a fine living outside of the extreme conflict mixed with lawyers.   You end up child custody experts who want to make money and who are mediocre.  You also have a high probability of the old white woman who will break every ethical rule to help the poor abused mother.   Child custody experts make more money if your conflict gets elevated–more work.  There is no real system of accountability and no transparency.  Behind paper degrees they are people who have their own biases.  Sometimes they are racists, sexists, or have different perspectives in life than you.  But generally, they will favor the mother because this is the type the Court system will select.  There is a big difference between generations about views of child custody.  The Court system has a facade of paper work and degrees….but most fathers know the horrible truth.  The Solano Family Court is stacked against them.

Child custody experts can make more than the lawyers especially if they don’t bother reading the volumes of documents they are supposed read.  They live very well if they simply take short cuts of stereotyping fathers into something that seems believable to the Courts.   Most child custody experts who volunteer and actively seek work from the Courts use stereotypes and short cuts to maximize their profit.

Equality in Custody is just a fantasy that the Superior Court of Solano County stamps on its webpage or documents.  There is no independent oversight, no transparency, and no accountability.  The excuses of no resources, other priorities, no money, workload etc. will always be acceptable excuses for an imperfect system that is biased against fathers.

As always, fathers remember to pay your taxes and child support because it makes it too easy for the Court to destroy you.  They may not care about Father’s rights, but when it comes to being politically correct expect your Solano Judge to be PC.

In then end you fathers will serve on Juries, will vote, and the generation of men hating women will die out.   The pendulum will swing.    I hope you remember to make wise choices when donating money, voting, and serving on Juries.   The reality that the Judicial system is about human biases and justice is for the rich and powerful has always been there.  We just get side tracked by things we want to believe and biased information that is presented through schools and mass media.